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December 1st, 12

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May 26th, 12

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March 6th, 12
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August 16th, 11

Anonymous asked: My roommate and I are maybe a little tense because of our cat situation. My kitten loves to play with my roommate's seven-year-old cat. The older cat is not interested in the least. So she hisses and spits and it gets my roommate very upset. I see it as them playing and don't mind, but she yells at my kitten and it's just become a little weird. That's all I have for now.

I think the yelling at a kitten part kind of says it all.

Kittens are bad.  Bad, cute, evil, perfect, snuggly little demons that never listen to instructions and seem to be in all places at once and perennially seeking mischief.  But kittens are not a new invention.  Nay, I’d say they’ve probably always been that way.  Since the dawn of time, kittens have been pestering older cats in their immediate vicinity.  Usually what happens is that the older cat ignores the kitten until the kitten finally calms down a bit, and they can get along without too much conflict.  They may even learn to love each other and be caught snuggling on the couch one day when you come home from work.  Or sometimes the older cat will just have to swat at the kitten until he or she gets the idea that they shouldn’t bite other cats’ ears, and then they can settle into a livable hatred.  Yes, I’m fairly certain this is the way that kitten / grown-up cat relations has been trending for the past millenium.

The older cat ought to be voicing his opinion — it’s normal and natural.  But your roommate should just see it as part of the adjustment to having a new kitten in the house.  Unless one of the cats is legitimately leaving bloody marks on the other, they shouldn’t need to be separated.  They will get used to living together eventually.

So the question is, what do you do to relieve the tension?  Let’s say you and your roommate are in the kitchen enjoying some tea and those little Swedish cookies that come fresh from Ikea, a cat scuffle occurs, and your roommate yells at your kitten.  Laugh charmingly, as I’m sure you always do, and say “Ah, little MurderPaws is wilding out again! But I think they’ll be best friends in no time.  It usually seems to go that way.  My friend Esmeralda’s cat was super bummed when she got a new kitten, but eventually they started to play and run around together, and now they’re inseparable.  This stage is fun but I’m looking forward to MurderPaws calming down a little too as she gets older.”

Certainly your charming laugh, along with a calm presentation of the facts, will diffuse the situation.

If you try this a couple of times and she is still in hysterics over the kitten, say “What do you think we should do about it?”  This will likely make her realize there’s almost nothing you can do about it, aside from letting the cats settle down over time.  If necessary though, compromising with your roommate about the cats will be better than listening to screaming all the time or living in a weirdly tense state.  Squirting the kitten with a water bottle whenever she pesters the older cat can be a good non-yelling option you can offer up.

All of this advice is contingent on the fact that you asked your roommate before obtaining said kitten.  Right? RIGHT?!  Just checking.  I know how easy it is to find oneself acquiring cats all the time.