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"Apparently it has not occurred to you that if you were able to eliminate your rival, you would create a job opening."

October 9th, 14

Miss Manners, from "The ‘other woman’ wants to become No. 1."

February 6th, 12
primandpretty:

“It was not my idea to have my portrait painted. I already know what I look like. And if I forget, there is a mirror in the bathroom.” ~Judith Martin
Everyone should read Miss Manners if not for the simple fact that etiquette rules are timeless than for her enchanting wit and proper prose.

primandpretty:

“It was not my idea to have my portrait painted. I already know what I look like. And if I forget, there is a mirror in the bathroom.” ~Judith Martin

Everyone should read Miss Manners if not for the simple fact that etiquette rules are timeless than for her enchanting wit and proper prose.


"One can always find someone in the world who is better off than oneself in one way or another. Doing so makes for a miserable life."

December 14th, 11

Miss Manners (via schwer)

"Honesty has come to mean the privilege of insulting you to your face without expecting redress."

October 22nd, 11

Judith Martin (Miss Manners)

"There are three possible parts to a date, of which at least two must be offered: entertainment, food, and affection. It is customary to begin a series of dates with a great deal of entertainment, a moderate amount of food, and the merest suggestion of affection. As the amount of affection increases, the entertainment can be reduced proportionately. When the affection IS the entertainment, we no longer call it dating. Under no circumstances can the food be omitted."

October 21st, 11

Miss Manners (Judith Perlman Martin, Wellesley Class of 1959)

(Source: wellesleymag)

"With some frequency, strange men, suddenly, out of the blue, instruct women whom they have never met to smile. Many women find the man’s behavior intrusive and often, aggravating. At the very least, the woman would prefer to be left alone so they can go about their business as they originally planned. They certainly do not wish to be forced to devote their attention to this complete stranger simply because he has suddenly demanded it."

October 12th, 11

Miss Manners and Smiling | Alas, a Blog

J and I rant about this with regular frequency.

(via hotelechozulu)

This. Endlessly. Today I overheard a mid-50s man say, “hello, pretty lady, where’s your smile?” to a receptionist as he entered the building. It’s no different than her saying, “hello, bald man, where’s your hair?”

(via wanderlustandtethers)

I hate this too, but I agree with Miss Manners on it.  You getting visibly irritated is, unfortunately, what these sickos want.  They desperately crave and need your attention.  Anybody can choose how to react, and should keep choosing that for themselves — but for me, I’ll keep ignoring them.  This may not be the same for everyone, but in my life, acknowledging harassers has about a 10% success rate on getting them to stop, while ignoring them has about a 99% success rate.  I’ll choose not to sully my own lovely  horizon by allowing them to meet my eye.  I’m a big fan of staring past them, pretending not to hear, as if they don’t exist — and in truth, they don’t.

(via wanderlustandtethers)

"When a society abandons its ideals just because most people can’t live up to them, behavior gets very ugly indeed."

September 28th, 11

Judith Martin (Miss Manners)

"A ceremony is not a show, and the emotion connected with it is supposed to be derived from participating in a known ritual, not from being diverted by jokes and surprises. The tendency to undercut ceremonies — which is being done frequently, not just at graduations but at weddings and even funerals — all but directs the participants and audience to be bored. And by the way, it is not itself amusing."

September 17th, 11

Judith Martin (Miss Manners)